“To be human is to risk being hurt. Being hurt is to risk having your heart cracked open. A heart that is cracked open is a heart that is getting ready to love more, feel more, and live more.”
Growing up in an imperfect and somewhat dysfunctional family that I loved and who I knew loved me, the truth is that I didn’t feel emotionally safe around them. Anger and harsh words frequently and suddenly erupted over things that should have been inconsequential as the accidental closing of a door.
Repeatedly, I found myself walking on eggshells, never really knowing when someone in my family might lash out or punish me for something I didn’t do. As a result, I learned to deal with painful situations the best way that I could.
Sometimes I fought back, pleaded for mercy, and begged not to be hurt. Other times, I just froze. Feeling helpless, I allowed others to beat me, hurt me, insult me, and take advantage of me while I quietly took it all in. But more often than not, I retreated into a world of my own. I hid inside a room with very thick walls.
At both a conscious and unconscious level, I knew I had to protect myself and the most vulnerable and sensitive part of me. And so I build what Dr. Bradley Nelson refers to as the “Heart-Wall.”
What is the “Heart-Wall”?
According to Dr. Nelson, “the heart is the emotional and spiritual core of our being, and when this core is repeatedly attacked or injured, your subconscious mind will form a kind of “energy wall” to protect your heart against further heartache, heartbreak, or against other assault.”
The “Heart-Wall” can be experienced as pressure or even pain around your heart. Most people who start meditating on their hearts will experience it as a tightness, discomfort, or burning sensation around the chest area. Some even describe the feeling of having their chests cracking open.
Eckhard Tolle refers to this “Heart-Wall” as the pain body, or the accumulation of all the emotional pain, grief, anger, sadness, shame, and guilt you’ve kept yourself from feeling for most of your life.
Like me, you built a wall around your heart to keep you from being injured or hurt again. And in doing so, you also closed yourself off from receiving the love your heart so eagerly yearns for now.
How the “Heart-Wall” Affect You
Having a ‘Heart-wall’ can affect you primarily in three ways:
First, it blocks your heart’s energy from flowing throughout the rest of your body, making it more difficult for your body to heal itself, and causing physical symptoms such as pain, primarily in the neck, upper back, and shoulders, which can lead to heart disease, heart attacks, and blood pressure problems.
Second, it blocks you from fully opening your hearts to others, making it harder to give and receive love freely. This can lead to depression, abuse, broken relationships, feeling numb, isolated, and disconnected from others.
Thirdly, it blocks you from connecting with your heart’s spiritual core and accessing your inner source of wisdom, power, and guidance that is always available from your Higher Self or Personal Christhood.
Dissolving the “Heart-Wall”
If you’re struggling to connect with others in deeper and more meaningful ways, then making the conscious decision to start dissolving this protective energy wall around your heart is the first step.
With this at heart, there are two invitations I’d like to extend:
First, watch the replay of October’s Online Workshop ‘From Pain to Power,’ where I used the ‘Heart-Tapping’ technique to help you start removing these energetic blocks around your heart. You can catch the replay at this link:
Please note that if you’ve not registered for the Academy’s Learning Portal, you’ll be asked to register first. Registration is free at this time.
Second, you can join me on the weekend of November 7-8 when I’ll be hosting the first-ever ‘Opening the Heart’ Online Weekend Retreat. During our time together, we’ll take a deep dive into our hearts and start releasing the blocks that keep us from opening fully to the deeper awareness of love, wisdom, and power within.
To learn more about this online weekend retreat or to register, please visit the following link:
I hope you can join me for one or both of these heart-awakening experiences!
From my heart to yours,
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