The path to building a deeply loving, meaningful and long-lasting romantic relationship requires that we move from the initial stage of physical attraction, towards greater emotional intimacy and connection.
Moving from lust to love requires that we surrender all of our pre-conceived ideas of what a romantic relationship should look and feel like, and start relating to our partners in a more real, authentic, and vulnerable way. This takes courage.
If you’re still in the initial stage of romantic attraction, the following seven distinctions between love and lust will help you determine if you are ready to move into a more intimate, meaningful, long-lasting union with your partner.
1) Lust is driven by the desire for physical connection whereas love by the need for emotional connection.
2) Over time, lust wanes, whereas love has a tendency to grows stronger as all fears of love and intimacy are surrendered.
3) Lust is often inspired by sexual fantasies projected by the mind whereas love operates in the real-time connection and intimate space between two hearts.
4) While in lust, you are romantic or sexual partners; but when in love, you are each other’s best friend or life companions.
5) Lust is all about instant gratification, thrill-seeking, and getting a quick fix, while love seeks long term benefits such as nurturing, safety, and harmony.
6) Powered by the need to meet your physical and sexual desires, lust is somewhat selfish. But love is selfless; seeking instead to nurture, care for and support
7) Lust arises out of an energetic or vibrational field that seeks to “do” or “have,” and love as a state of “being” with your partner that is nurturing, caring and supportive.
Is lust something you should avoid or feel guilty about?
Not at all. Lust is the thorn that hook two hearts together. And love, the rose that slowly blooms inside each other.
Under the influence of love, lust changes from a raging fire to a slow-burning flame expressed as wholehearted devotion to your partner.
Wishing you a fantastic, love-filled Valentine’s week!
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From my heart to yours.