Setting the intention to attract, welcome and create the kind of romantic relationship your heart is longing for will often be met by an equal amount of resistance from that part of you that resists change. Let’s face it, once you find your ideal partner, lover or soulmate – or they find you, your life will never be the same…
You’ll be risking being vulnerable, and possibly having your heart broken or feelings hurt.
Your relationship with what you call ‘my freedom’, ‘my time’, ‘my space’ and ‘my things’ will change.
You’ll now have a front-row witness to all those habits, behaviors and attitudes you’ve kept neatly hidden from the world. Are you truly ready for this?
All of this can be intimidating and scary, to say the least! Especially to that part of you that is afraid of the big ‘unknown’ a new romantic relationship will inevitably come with.
To help you understand how this resistance might be affecting you, today I’d like to share with you what I believe are the 5 main reasons you are not with your Soulmate YET. Becoming aware of them is the first step towards getting them handled and successfully moving toward the arms of your beloved.
5 Reasons you are not with your Soulmate
Author Anaïs Nin once wrote that finding love has “a little bit to do with destiny, fate, and what’s written in the stars”. If fate, destiny and the stars play a minor role, then what is it that ultimately determines your ability to manifest the love you want?
I believe it boils down to your willingness to courageously and wholeheartedly choose and go after the kind of relationship you really want and believe is possible. In other words, it’s all about how you’re showing up for yourself and others and the actions you’re taking from that space.
Considering this, here are what I believe the top 5 reasons you are not with your soulmate yet:
1) You don’t REALLY want it
When it comes to wanting love, many of us have fallen in love with the idea of love and not love itself. We’ve idealized this thing we call love, making it something unrealistically perfect when in fact, loving relationships can be messy, painful, and risky.
Do you want real, messy, perfectly imperfect love? Your Soulmate is not someone who is coming to save you, rescue or make you happy. What makes the two of you Soulmates is that you consciously choose to walk the Path to Soulmate Love together and use your relationship as a vehicle for growth, healing, and transformation.
If this is what you really want, are you then willing to re-commit to the love you want by taking 100% responsibility for your ability to be it, have it or create it?
2) You have a closed heart
Having a closed heart or a heart that is filled with fear, anger, and shame doesn’t allow others in and can block you from welcoming new love.
From an energetic standpoint, a closed heart vibrates at a lower energetic frequency leading you to experience emotions such as shame, guilt, fear, anger, and pride. These emotions act as a wall around your heart and push love away from you.
This is why the poet Rumi once said that when it comes to finding true love, our “task is not to seek love, but merely to find all the barriers within ourselves that we have built against it.”
For true love to come into your life, the walls around your heart must come down!
So, are you willing to re-open your heart to love and risk being vulnerable?
3) You’re still hanging on to someone from the past
As long as you’re still attached to someone from the past and keep harboring fantasies that ‘someday things will work out with them’, you won’t have room in your life for true love to come to you. The same is true if there’s someone that you’ve not forgiven and truly let go of.
Holding onto the past keeps you unavailable to someone who could be a better match for you today and even surpass any relationship experience from the past.
If there’s someone you’re still holding on, are finally willing to release them by admitting to yourself that if that person was your true soulmate you would be already together?
4) You believe there’s something wrong with you
Do you believe there’s something inherently wrong or flawed with you that will turn potential partners off? Maybe it’s a physical thing like your current age, weight, skin condition, hair or a birthmark. Maybe it’s your home, financial status or job?
Whatever it is you believe is wrong with you or makes you unlovable is often the very same thing that your soulmate will love about you. And the reason is simple: to your true Soulmate, you are IT. Whatever it is you think is wrong or broken with you, they will see past it because they see beyond your human imperfections and flaws and connect with the greater gifts and qualities you have.
Are you willing to finally embrace the truth that you are already whole, perfect and complete? Are you willing to finally embrace that your true Soulmate will love you just as you are?
5) You don’t have a strategy or plan of action
It’s very unlikely that your soulmate will come knocking at your door and ask you to get married. Preparing for this kind of relationship requires that you build new skills that will allow you to open your heart and re-align with the natural flow of life so that you can confidently start connecting with potential candidates.
This requires that you start doing things differently and that you have some kind of framework, map or plan of action. Both my Manifest Soulmate Love Program and The Path to Soulmate Love Course provide you with a proven, step-by-step process to help you open your heart, become a love magnet, and start creating the Soulmate level relationship you truly desire.
So, are you willing to start preparing for this kind of relationship by developing the necessary skills that will eventually allow you to enjoy this kind of relationship?
If you’ve been feeling insecure about your ability to manifest your soulmate, maybe it’s time for you to:
- Renew your commitment to creating a soulmate level relationship
- Open your heart to welcoming new love
- Release the past and anyone you’re still attached to
- Let go of all excuses and beliefs about why you can’t have the love you want, and
- Develop the necessary skills that will support you in creating the relationship you want
Committing yourself to these 5 things will no doubt put you back on The Path to Soulmate love or the lifetime adventure of becoming the most loving, powerful and joyful version of you!
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From my heart to yours.
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