One of the main reasons the majority of us are not able to transcend our problems is because they have become part of our identity or set of beliefs about who we are. Deep within, there’s a part of us that refuses to let go of the story we’ve grown so used to telling ourselves or others about why we are the way we are…
How unfairly we’ve been treated by our friends, co-workers, partners, family, destiny or God.
How others must first apologize for what they did before we can forgive them.
How we are messed up because of something one of our parents did to us.
This over-identification with the story we keep telling ourselves and, more importantly, the emotional payoff or ‘juice’ we get from telling the story over and over is what perpetuates the problem and keeps up from transcending it.
Moving beyond our problems or current limitations requires that we give up both the story and the emotional payoff we are receiving from it. This is an important Emotional Sel-Mastery skill I teach in my seminars.
If, for example, we have a financial problem, we must be willing to stop telling ourselves and others the story of how broke we are, how no one will ever hire us, or how old and undeserving of money we are. We must also give up the attachment to feeling sorry for ourselves or having other people’s sympathy.
One way to let go of the story is to ask yourself this simple yet powerful question: ‘Who would I be without this story?’
Who would you be without the story that you’re too old to find the ideal job or live your dreams?
Who would you be without the story that you’re too wrinkled, too fat, or too broken to find love?
Who would you be without the story that you’re too tired, too sick, or too stressed to write that book, start that project, or do that thing you love?
Letting go of the story and the emotional payoff you get from it is the first step towards reclaiming your personal power. This requires that you take 100% responsibility for your life and for all that you’re currently experiencing and begin to see yourself as the author and creator of your life.
The power to change any situation is and has always been inside of you. Because ultimately, you are the consciousness that created the problem and therefore, you are also the consciousness that will transcend it. This requires that a change happens both in your heart and mind.
Within you is where true power lies.
From my heart to yours.
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